Men’s Mental Health Month: It’s okay not to be okay

June is Men's Mental Health Month, a time dedicated to raising awareness about an issue that affects countless men, families, and communities, yet often remains hidden behind closed doors.

When we think about health, we often focus on physical wellbeing — eating well, exercising regularly, and attending medical check-ups. But our mental health is just as important. It influences how we think, feel, cope with life's challenges, build relationships, and navigate our daily responsibilities.

For many men, however, talking about mental health remains one of the hardest conversations to have.

From a young age, many men are taught to be strong, to push through difficulties, to provide, protect, and persevere regardless of what they may be experiencing internally. While resilience is admirable, it can sometimes come at a cost. Too often, men carry emotional burdens quietly, believing they need to cope alone.

But strength is not silence.

In South Africa, the need for these conversations has never been greater. Men account for nearly 80% of recorded suicides, while suicide remains one of the leading causes of death among young people aged 15 to 29. Behind every statistic is a father, husband, son, brother, friend, colleague, or neighbour whose struggle may have gone unseen.

The reality is that mental health challenges do not discriminate. Stress, anxiety, depression, burnout, grief, trauma, and emotional exhaustion can affect anyone, regardless of age, profession, background, or lifestyle.

The Silent Struggle

Mental health challenges often develop gradually. They don't always arrive as a crisis. Sometimes they appear as persistent stress, irritability, emotional withdrawal, or a growing sense of exhaustion that never seems to go away.

Many men continue to show up for work, support their families, and fulfil their responsibilities while silently struggling beneath the surface.

Common warning signs may include:

• Persistent feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or emptiness
• Increased irritability, frustration, or anger
• Difficulty concentrating or making decisions
• Loss of interest in activities once enjoyed
• Changes in sleep patterns
• Changes in appetite or weight
• Constant fatigue or lack of motivation
• Withdrawal from family, friends, or social activities
• Increased use of alcohol, medication, or other substances to cope
• Feelings of worthlessness, guilt, or being overwhelmed

While everyone experiences difficult periods from time to time, ongoing or worsening symptoms should never be ignored.

What You Can Do

Taking care of your mental wellbeing does not always require dramatic changes. Often, small and consistent actions can make a meaningful difference.

Start With One Honest Conversation

Speaking openly with someone you trust can help relieve emotional pressure and remind you that you do not have to carry everything on your own. Whether it is a friend, family member, colleague, counsellor, or healthcare professional, reaching out is often the first step towards healing.

Prioritise Your Physical Health

Mental and physical health are closely connected. Regular exercise, quality sleep, balanced nutrition, staying hydrated, and limiting alcohol consumption can positively impact mood, energy levels, and resilience.

Manage Stress Proactively

Identify the sources of stress in your life and develop healthy coping mechanisms. Exercise, mindfulness, hobbies, spending time outdoors, and setting healthy boundaries can all help reduce emotional strain.

Stay Connected

Isolation can make life's challenges feel heavier. Maintaining meaningful relationships and social connections provides emotional support, perspective, and a sense of belonging.

Seek Help Early

One of the greatest misconceptions about mental health is that you should only seek help when things become unbearable. The truth is that early support often leads to better outcomes. Counsellors, psychologists, employee assistance programmes, and healthcare professionals are trained to help and provide practical tools to navigate difficult periods.

How We Can Support One Another

Sometimes the most powerful thing we can do for someone is simply show up.

A simple check-in, a listening ear, or an honest conversation can have a profound impact.

If you notice someone may be struggling:

• Reach out and check in regularly.
• Listen without judgement.
• Avoid minimising their feelings or offering quick fixes.
• Encourage professional support where appropriate.
• Remind them that they are not alone.

You do not need to have all the answers. Sometimes being present is enough.

Where to Get Help

If you or someone you know needs support, help is available:

SADAG Suicide Crisis Helpline: 0800 567 567
SADAG Mental Health Helpline: 0800 456 789
Lifeline South Africa: 0861 322 322
Department of Social Development Substance Abuse Helpline: 0800 12 13 14 or SMS 32312
Akeso Psychiatric Response Unit: 0861 435 787

In an emergency, contact your nearest emergency service or visit the closest hospital.

A Final Thought

Many men spend their lives carrying responsibilities for others — providing for their families, supporting their loved ones, solving problems, and standing strong when life becomes difficult.

But even the strongest people need support.

Looking after your mental health is not a sign of weakness. It is an act of courage, self-respect, and responsibility. It allows you to be present for yourself and for the people who matter most.

This Men's Mental Health Month, let us create space for honest conversations, meaningful check-ins, and support without judgement.

Because it is okay not to be okay.

And it is more than okay to ask for help.